Independent
When you are in a relationship you get very used to doing
things with someone and you rarely have to go out and do things all on your
own. Now that you are single though you need to become independent and get
comfortable going to parties and events on your own. If you don’t get
back your independence you’ll end up missing out on a lot of the fun things you
enjoy. Plus going to places on your own means that you are far more
approachable and you might end up meeting Mr Right.
Easy-going
Once you are ready to begin dating again you need to
re-learn your easy-going approach to dates and men. Don’t fall too hard too
soon with guys and don’t take it personally if things don’t go right or you
both don’t hit it off. Remember that you need to go on lots of dates before you’ll
find another suitable man so adopt an easy-going approach to dating and try not
to take things too seriously.
Dreamer
You may have always dreamt of having a big family and a
husband and although that dream isn’t unachievable sometimes having this sort
of ambition when you are single can make life tough for you. Try to focus your
attention on a different dream, such as running a half marathon or writing a
book. Then when you meet someone you can always switch back your focus to a big
wedding and kids.
Self-sufficiency
Having a boyfriend means that when a problem arises, like a
bulb going out on your car, you can rely on each other to help fix the
issue. Yet now, it’s all down to you to
fix the problem and that can be daunting. Re-learning how to be self-sufficient
should help you get yourself out of most issues though. You should read tips
online, get books from the library and make the most of your resources (and by
resources, we mean your mum and your dad).
Organisation
Being single means that your workload just doubled. Not only
do you now have to work full-time you also have to do all of the housework,
food shopping and house admin. To make sure you don’t end up living in a mess
or doing chores 24/7 you need to get super organised. Trying to do a few chores
before work can help save lots of time. Multitasking will also help you achieve
a healthy balance.
Saver
As well as your heart being broken, your piggy bank is also
likely to be. Now that you’re single your finances are bound to be affected and
you need to remind yourself that you can’t go on living the same kind of
lifestyle you used to be able to afford. Making small changes will make a big
difference though. Cancelling your gym membership, selling some of the clothes
you no longer wear or cutting out alcohol will all help you boost your budget
and help you to live on a smaller income.
Self-soother
After a terrible day at work you’ll miss your boyfriend the
most. All you’ll want to do is go home to him and have a cuddle. Now though you
need to re-learn how to become a self-soother and figure out ways that you can
comfort yourself. You might need to ring up a friend, order in a takeaway and a
film or go for a hard core run.
Thick skin
Being single is somewhat synonymous with being rejected and
you’ll need to develop a thick skin if you don’t want to end up with low
self-confidence. When you approach new guys remember that even if they say no
it might not be about you. Learn ways to make you feel less disheartened and
before long you’ll take rejection with a smile and be a stronger person as a
result.
Self-confidence
Self-confidence doesn’t just mean that you feel comfortable
eating alone in a restaurant or delivering a work presentation to a room full
of experts in your field. Self-confidence also means that you love yourself and
that you are comfortable in your own skin.
Make sure that you spend some time enjoying who you are and nurturing
yourself before you look for a new relationship. Being single is all about
focusing on you and giving yourself some time and attention
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