All a Man Wants.

 Written by Thelma Thinks!

"Ladies, ladies, ladies, men dont need love, men dont need good food, men dont even really need good sex, ALL WE NEED IS RESPECT,. When we tell you stay at home and dont go out, or give you instructions we are not being disrespectful we are simply excersicing our god given right as the head of the family to fashion out our future with you. Even International football teams have a head coach who directs the team. We know you have to have a social life, we know you have an opinion but it must be done in moderation. Stay at home and take care of your husband or someone else will. My wife told me she had a training at work for a week and wanted to stay at her aunts house so she could get to work early bcos of lekki traffic, i told her i didnt like the idea but told her i would volunteer to wake up at 4.30am in the morning so i could drive her to work, she did independent woman and still went to her aunts house to stay and when i called her to convey my displeasure she blocked my line. She has been there for 1 and a half weeks, Im now cheating on her with a 25yr old hot girl in our estate and God forbid if she gets pregnant for me i will soo accept it as my 36yr old wife has no kids for me yet. Ladies, Ladies, Ladies its very simple…… DISRESPECT YOUR MAN= GETTING CHEATED ON"

Above comment left by a Dele on Bella Naija on the Anita Solomon post. Remember all that brouhaha, that ruckus that broke the Internet when Toke Makinwa and Maje Ayida's marriage came crashing because she found out that his side chic was pregnant for him? Well the side chic in question is Anita Solomon and she recently celebrated the 1st birthday of her and Maje's little son. 

As you can imagine, almost everyone who likes gist has an opinion on this matter. From what I noticed, most ladies took Toke's side, blaming Anita for getting pregnant for a married man, whether or not they were dating before... The men on the other hand are bashing Toke seriously. According to them she deserves to be dumped, she deserved to be cheated on, she deserves this because she was still forming "Miss Independent", she was still doing MTN everywhere you go and attending every party and social event even though she was married. She was still very flashy, packing 10 packs of human hair on her head, bleaching her skin and fixing fake lashes, while Anita is the gentle simple girl with natural beauty... 

      None of these members of the court of public opinion know any of the parties concerned personally but somehow they all know who was good, who was bad and who deserved what. Oh, very few had anything to say about Maje, the one person who should actually be under heat in this triangle, but #itsamansworld. 

In any case the comment above piqued my interest. Now brother Dele is cheating with an estate girl after asking his wife to please go from home, even offering to go and drop her off as early as 4.30 in the morning. Would you say his present actions are justified? 

Let's talk. 

Just to voice my own opinion of Mr Dele, me thinks Mrs Dele is probably not in her aunt's house. Seems to me like Mrs Dele might have her own little something on the side. And/or she simply doesn't care what happens in her absence. Looks to me like Mrs Dele doesn't really love Mr Dele anymore. 

Which brings me back to what Mr Dele says he and other men want. Dear Men, if a woman loves you, you would neither have to beg nor demand for respect. Respect is a natural byproduct of our love, when we love you, we respect you by default. It is practically impossible for us to love and not respect you. So, be more interested in winning and keeping your woman's affection than in gaining her respect. #misplacedpriorities.