Women tend to be desperate at some point in time about having a man in their life, settling down, getting married or at least having a serious relationship. Once the biological clock starts to tick towards 30, the young girl in her disappears, the desperate lady rears its ugly head, and this would make them probably move from one failed relationship to another, and probably end up in a failed marriage — due to desperation.
A quote by Sarah Jessica Parker says; “When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.” And in reality, that’s the truth.
I have 6 reasons why desperation would probably not get you your man:
1. YOU BECOME TOO CAGEY
Whether ladies know this or not is another question entirely; but we love our space sometimes, and it’s in that space we get to think and make certain decisions for ourselves. When a woman becomes too desperate for a serious relationship, an engagement and probably marriage, it could probably choke us, and not every man would pull through, even if he has been serious with you all the while — sometimes, you have to let the man be the man, and the honest truth is, if a man is serious about you, you would definitely know — desperation might probably spoil things.
2. MEN NOTICE YOUR DESPERATION EASILY
Men know when a lady is desperate for something, and that desperation from that woman would make her susceptible to all forms of games from men. I’ve seen men lie to desperate women just to get in and out of their pants as they so please, till they are tired; men also trick desperate women off their wealth, inheritance and a host of other things. It’s so easy for a man to spot a desperate woman, and from their it could be game on —never be desperate for any man who especially isn’t desperate for you — that’s a sinking ship.
3. IT OPENS UP YOUR FLAWS
Desperation could turn you from one sweet princess to a nagging, annoying lady without you knowing. Once a man sees those flaws, he would probably get scared of pushing the relationship to the next level.
4. GIVES ROOM FOR SUSPICIONS
Desperation is so ugly that it can make a man suspicious about you. Desperation doesn’t just come out of the blues, it emanates from something, and the tape it plays to the man is one filled with suspicion.
5. TRAP
Most men see a desperate woman as one who wants to trap them. To the woman it might probably be her own way of love and affection or wanting better from the relationship, but the man sees it as a cage, a load or an unnecessary burden; desperation makes men irritated.
6. HE WOULD BE UNSURE OF HIMSELF
Sometimes, a man needs to sort things out for himself, he needs to clear his mind and be sure about himself. It’s a much easier decision for a woman to get married than for a man; a man sees it as a serious commitment, and it takes a lot of dedication; so for him to go through with settling down with you, he really has to be sure of himself that he’s making the right decision, and sometimes, he might even be sure that you are the one he wants, but a host of other factors could make him want to take a bit more time before making that final commitment. But guess what? Desperation can make him become unsure of himself, you and the entire relationship thing.
Desperation in terms of wanting a man or a relationship or marriage would only make you look ugly, no matter how beautiful you are. Let the man chase you, enjoy every bit of the chasing and he would value you. But if you turn the table around, it doesn’t always go well.
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