Stupid Mistakes Women Make When Seeking Men

When it comes to looking for love, even the smartest women make the most stupid mistakes.

• Unrealistic expectations

You’re never going to find love if you keep finding flaws in every guy you meet. Perfection is a lie people and you’re rarely going to come across someone who meets all your requirements. You want a man who is tall, handsome, rich, famous. You won't find that man even in the Bible.

Instead of setting impossible-to-meet standards, figure out what your relationship deal-breakers are and what you can compromise on. And when you meet someone you hit it off with, give him a chance even if he doesn’t meet your criteria

•  Being too available vs. playing hard to get

You’re not a puppy so stop acting like one! He doesn’t want a desperate genie who’s at his beck and call. Don’t go running after him every time he calls and NEVER ditch your friends for him. Okay, not never but don’t do it all the time. Believe it or not, being too available is a turn off. He needs to know that you’re an individual who has a life. At the same time, don’t play too hard to get. He may simply think you’re not interested and move on.

• The where of it all

Now, I’m not saying you can’t find love in a club but chances are the men there aren’t looking for anything long term. Yes, love is all about chance meetings and fate but you’ll probably have a better chance of finding someone at your office or your college than on a dance floor on a Saturday night amidst sweaty men

• Not being who they are

I know I keep repeating this over and over, but I can’t stress the importance of being yourself when it comes to finding love. If you’re a loud mouthed  loving girl, be that. If you’re quiet and prefer to spend your weekends indoors, be that. If you love shopping and partying, be that. The minute you put on a show, remember that you may trick him into falling for you but he’s not falling for the real you and you can’t fake it forever.

• Patience

Last but not least, love is not easy and it’s certainly not quick so be patient. You may have been on a great couple of dates with a guy but don’t freak him out by using the “L” word just yet. Get to know him inside out, and see if the sparks last beyond the initial phase. Falling in love takes time. At the same time, don’t continue dating someone if you know for a fact that he’s not right for you, hoping that you’ll fall in love. Let go and move on